This One is Mine by Maria Semple

Meanwhile, David’s diabetic sister Sally is living her life on the margins of her brother’s success and pines for the days when he was a doting brother. In her mid-thirties, she is desperate to get her life in order, and for Sally that means getting a man. Always scheming, she thinks that the best way is marrying someone who on the verge of being a breakout success. When she meets Jeremy, a sportswriter who has become known for being able to predict the winner of sports matches, she thinks she’s found her man. She gets a lot more than she ever bargained for in a relationship.

I really loved this book, and I think that’s in large part because of the compassionate way that Maria Semple treated and lovingly developed her characters who are quite frankly, obnoxious. As I started reading the first chapters and was introduced to Violet and her cohorts, I was appalled.  They were self-absorbed, prejudiced snobs or social climbers, or social climbing snobs whose decision making and actions were completely reprehensible. They have too much, think too little, and take everything for granted; and just as I was wondering if I would be able to stand these people for the course of the book a very strange thing happened, I started rooting for them. I wanted them to be able to work through their issues and make their family lives work and for them to communicate, and for their relationships to be stronger.

Everyone was so interesting and complex that one moment I would be totally down on them and in the next instant I would gain some perspective on where they were coming from and be on their side. I railed at David on Violet’s behalf and then turned around and totally wanted Violet to get herself together so she wouldn’t lose the man who still loved her, no matter how flawed that love had become. I alternated between hoping Sally would land herself a husband and thinking that she didn’t deserve one. Teddy, Violet’s sometime lover, is both repulsive and utterly charming and all in all I felt like he was (along with the rest of them) doing the best that he possibly could. It’s wonderful when you have enough depth to really get a handle on a character and to like them though they may be very, very flawed.

One of the other great things about this book is that you really get a chance to see the flavor of L.A. and experience some of the communities and the diverse people.  The house and property descriptions, Violet buying excessively expensive chocolates and Hermes scarfs to gift to salespeople, the over the top yoga retreat which David attends to find himself, and the independent child classes Violet attends with her daughter are all humorously exposed and explored. The situations are hilarious and absurd, but also representative of a certain lifestyle. I liked to see the characters moving within their different environments. Semple also peppers her stories with everyday problems and illness which have to be dealt with such as diabetes, Asperger’s, drug use and depression to name a few.

This book and its characters are memorable ones and they still continue to stick with me and come to the top of my list of books that I recommend, especially if you like great characterizations and drama. It had a bit of mystery as well because I wanted to see how they would all end up and there were a variety of possibilities that I would have been okay with, which is nice.  But I like the one I got too!

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